B E . S T R O N G

Sometimes going through too much aren't as good as what many think.
Though it benefits in the way I can sayang the sad souls' hearts ;
analyzing how they feel and help them find the root feeling and cause,
but it can sometimes make you protect yourself so much
that you forgot how to love.
However, for me, it is a different case.
I can still go around loving everyone,
allowing my heart to roam about the words people speaks.
That means after getting hurt so much,
I can still accept guys in my life.
Whereas many people always work according to what they see people
react when the same situation arises.

For example :
Problem : My boyfriend who i loved alot, cheat on my feelings.
Majority reaction : Very upset. Break down. Sometimes even result
in taking revenge on them. Attempting suicide to show how your emotional and
mental needs are not met and it hurts so much.
Cannot stand up from the fall because it is supposed
to be that way since I am so hurt.
Result : Sometimes you may not be as sad as you actually are.
But because of the fact that you want to show that you actually love your
boyfriend alot, so you also react like what majority do. This is to double confirm
yourself that you love your boyfriend alot, that's why you will react this way.
& at the mean time let others also see how serious the situation is.
In fact : Actually what people needed is empathy. It is not sympathy. Is like a type of comfort that they hope they can get after this that had happened. A type of console
that they hope to get to agree that that are hurt, sayang-ing them
However, the friends most of the time neglected or ignored their feelings when they
did not appear to be very upset. That's why it resulted that they will result in such
behaviors. And for worse cases, they took these action that they took as a real
deep agony is their hearts. These is even a much more severe case than
those who really am upset. Because those who really am upset, knows when
they are alright. Those who took up the reaction do not know these sadness
will stop. They tends to dwell in the matter more than those people who are truly
sad. Most of the situations in relationships(not married yet,doesn't include being raped and extreme sacrifices made) are able to be resolved when you found the right one and when the right amount of empathy is given.

It is a little complicated here and there which i do not know how to
elaborate into words. It is a type of deep felt thing which black and white
aren't easy to define.

It is something like the following steps :

If,

friends & love ones are sensitive enough to provide the empathy, attention, love and care on the problem and not belittle it.

Then,

they will not need to resort to such actions to get it.

Thereafter,

it won't be that difficult for them to come out of the situation

Which means,

It is easier for them to move on.

Results in :

Stronger friendship, healthier heart and soul.
Most importantly, MORE LIFE IS SAVED!

What do you think? (:
give me your comments (:

T A K E N . B Y . S J J

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T H E . V E R D I C T

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